It is important to have standards. Standards work as a net to catch us when we fall.
For example, if we have standards which say that we will never be in temperatures below 32 degrees Fahrenheit, then, when the temperature approaches 32 degrees, we will take preventative action to avoid freezing. That safety net catches us and tells us to get inside or put on a coat.
Standards are agreements we make with ourselves. We agree to stay in integrity with ourselves. Think of it like your conscience, except that you can program this conscience. Your conscience automatically tells you right from wrong but YOU program your standards.
Sometimes we aspire to certain standards but we have challenges maintaining them. You know the deal, you decide not to drink more than three drinks, next thing you know, you’re waking up hung over from drinking all night.
Other examples would be:
- Dating someone who you feel is not appropriate for you in order to avoid loneliness.
- Not doing your job as well as you feel you should even though it is within your potential to do so.
When we consistently violate our standards by telling ourselves one thing and doing another, we send a signal to our subconscious mind that our words are meaningless. We reinforce a “loser” mentality in our minds. If we repeat this sort of cycle often, we end up hypnotizing ourselves into expecting to fail, expecting to let ourselves down. And when we expect to fail, we usually do.
So, what’s the answer? It is very simple. Stop lying to yourself.
Don’t say one thing and do another. That is childish and counterproductive. Be honest with yourself about where you are in life and the habits you have. This self-awareness will give you the power you need to change.
Stop hiding “bad” behavior. Stop making excuses. START believing in yourself and your ability to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and march to victory.
YOU can do it. YOU can live in integrity with yourself. IF you take the first step of self-honesty, self-improvement will be a logical next step.
So, admit where you are, remember your standards, and move your life into alignment with those standards.
Keep moving forward!